Thursday, May 23, 2013

New Insights

Married life has been giving me new insights every now and then for almost a year now. It's been both good and bad. But I've only recently started to appreciate my wife. Of course it has been recent because  she's changed a lot and still is continuously doing so. I guess that a husband and wife do grow together, so we're no exception. I admit that just after marriage, the ideal-world bubble burst with a loud bang for both of us. 

Facing one complication after another, there came a time when we both found ourselves cornered enough to call it quits. Like every couple I know, after marriage, the thing that starts to bother you is "I didn't think that he/she was like that". That feeling of estrangement can grow pretty intense. Nobody thinks they'd face it but many do; from the examples around me, I reckon that most do.

Almost a year down the line, what I've grown to appreciate about my wife is her innocence (ok ok there are times she's over-clever but that's any woman's inherent trait) and the way she's genuinely interested in doing good things for people around her. I love how steadfast she is in trying to make things work in our relation and how she takes care of so many things. What I'd call to be any man's great fortune is something sublime yet  insanely powerful. It is the power of your wife's belief in you, in your strength to carry on, in your thinking and in your actions (almost!!).

Thankfully I have a wife who gets me to talk things out even when I'm stubbornly reticent. She's changed tremendously over the past months; I'm sure I have too. I've changed in a different manner, I've grown to see beyond what meets the eye. I see all the calculations that people make in their relation with me and I've begun to respond in kind. I understand that this money and power crazy society isn't the place I wish to spend my life in. But I also reckon it's not good to be without money either...but that can never be the central focus of my life, neither can I be friends with people like that. The last one year of PhD too has given me insights into the scientific temperament and that of the society. I believe I've begun to behave more like a man (of course, with my own unique outlook) moving away from the goody boyishness I was so fondly known for...the effing world left me no choice!

 I found someone who could look beyond the parochial outlook of the world society around us. We've both learnt to forgive each other and those who mean something to us in our lives We're still learning to not get hurt by people derive pleasure out of hurting us (and we're almost there). It's not like we don't have problems and it's not like we won't have them in the future but the good thing is that we know that we'll find a way. I have this new-found respect for my wife and even for my parents and I'm happy with this change. I'm still not very theistic (maybe I'll never be because of my extreme dislike towards rituals and alters) but have found new love for the allegorical words of the Bible that seemed so superficial and meaningless some time ago.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord

1 comment:

AJ said...

When you feel like being quiet
When you need to speak your mind
I will listen
And I will be here
When the laughter turns to crying
Through the winning, losing and trying
We'll be together
I will be here...